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We have all been rejected at some time in our lives. Here is a little of what Neil Anderson has to say about it.

Page 41 of the booklet by Neil Anderson:
Understanding Rejection

Romans 15:7 "Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God."

When we think or feel rejected and unloved we then determine to please the significant others to gain their approval. Then more rejection comes resulting in choosing one of the three defense postures.

1. Beat the system. 2. Give into the system. 3. Rebel against the system.

1. Beat the system: This person basically buys the system and learns to compete or scheme to "get ahead" and become the "significant other." Eventually results in more rejection because the ability to perform eventually diminishes.
Emotional Results: Inability to express feelings emotional insulation perfectionism worries.
Attitudes and Reactions towards God:Refuses to come under God's authority, has little real fellowship with God.

2. Give into the System: Continue the efforts to satisfy others but begins to believe that they themselves are rejectable and unloveable resulting in more rejection because acceptance comes less to those who reject themselves.
Emotional Results: Feelings of worthlessness and inferiority subjectivity introspection self-condemning.
Attitudes and Reactions towards God: Projects earthly father's behavior onto God, unable to trust God

3. Rebel Against the System This person fights the system and says, "I don't need or want your love." Often behaves or dresses in an objectionable way. This results in more rejection because a rebel causes others to be more defensive of the system they reject.
Emotional Results: Wishing he had never been born undisciplined irresponsibility self-hatred and bitterness.
Attitudes and Reactions towards God: Views God as a tyrant and rebels against Him.

The most significant systems: 1. Family 2. School 3. Society in general.